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The first layerthe stock nobody talks about

Going through Robert’s folder, one line item stopped me. A single stock position — Apple, held since so long ago that the cost basis was functionally zero. Robert had a connection to the company’s early orbit decades back, bought shares, and simply never sold. Why would he? It only ever went up.

That position now represented about ten percent of their net worth, and roughly ninety percent of its value was embedded capital gain. Untangled carelessly — sold in a single year, on top of Robert’s salary, while still California residents — the combined federal and state tax bill would have been larger than their entire annual investable income. One transaction, executed at the wrong time in the wrong state, would have cost them more than a year of saving.

Notice what just happened. They asked about moving. The first real finding was a tax time bomb that had nothing to do with geography — except that it had everything to do with geography, because where they sold would matter almost as much as when.

The second layerthe window nobody mentioned

Robert retires in 2027. His $190,000 salary stops. And between that moment and the year required minimum distributions begin on his retirement accounts, something rare opens up: a stretch of years where the Fentons’ taxable income drops to nearly nothing but their wealth stays exactly where it is.

Most people experience those years passively — a pleasant lull of low tax bills. What those years actually are is the single most valuable planning window of the Fentons’ financial lives. Every year inside it, they can deliberately fill their low tax brackets — converting traditional retirement dollars to Roth dollars at rates they will never see again, or realizing gains on that Apple stock at a fraction of the cost of doing it today.

The window is finite. It opens in 2027 and closes at RMD age, and no one gets those years back. Nobody had ever mentioned it to them. It doesn’t show up unless you know to look for it.

The third layerwhat the move is actually worth

Here’s where the geography question finally re-entered the room — but transformed. California would tax the Fentons’ retirement income, their conversions, and their capital gains at rates reaching past nine percent. Arizona taxes income at a flat 2.5 percent.

Run that difference across every conversion dollar, every realized gain, and every year of a twenty-year retirement, and the state arbitrage compounds into a number worth significantly more than most people earn in a year. Not a nicety. Not a rounding error. A six-figure structural advantage — but only if the sequencing is right. Establish Arizona residency before the big realization years, and the entire conversion window and the entire Apple unwind happen at 2.5 percent instead of nine-plus. Move carelessly, or sell before moving, and most of that value evaporates.

The move wasn’t just permissible. Done in the right order, the move was the engine of the plan.

The fourth layerthe one they almost didn’t bring up

Near the end of the second meeting, Carol mentioned — quietly, the way people mention things they’ve decided to be matter-of-fact about — that she’d had a stroke the previous year. She’d recovered well. But it changed something fundamental in the plan: no long-term care insurer would touch her application now. At any price.

For most couples, the answer to long-term care risk is an insurance product. That door was closed. So the answer had to be built by hand: a dedicated, self-funded care reserve — and the cleanest place to build it was inside the very Roth conversion window we’d just identified. Dollars converted during the low-bracket years become tax-free dollars later, exactly when a care event would demand them, with no RMD clock forcing them out and no tax drag eroding them while they wait.

Which brings me to the moment I most want you to see, because it’s the reason this case is in this guide.

The Apple problem and the long-term care problem are the same conversation. Every dollar of stock gain the Fentons realize in a given year competes for bracket space with every dollar they convert to Roth that same year. Fill the brackets with conversions and there’s no cheap room left to unwind the stock. Unwind the stock aggressively and the conversion window — the one funding Carol’s care reserve — gets crowded out. Handled as two separate decisions, each one sabotages the other. Handled as one choreography, mapped year by year across the window, both fit.

Most advisors would have answered the geography question. The right answer required ignoring it — temporarily — and going three layers deeper.

The fifth layerthe one that wasn’t financial at all

There was one thing left, and it was the thing actually generating the unease that brought them to my office. Their daughter — their only child — lives permanently in California. Would always live in California. And underneath "can we move to Arizona" was a question neither of them had said out loud: are we abandoning her?

Here is what the numbers made it possible to say. The move wasn’t a move away from their daughter. The state arbitrage, the protected care reserve, the cheap unwind of the concentrated position — together they made the Fentons’ retirement dramatically more durable. More slack in the plan. More margin for the flight to see her whenever they wanted, for helping her when it mattered, for never becoming a financial weight on her later — which, if you had asked Robert and Carol to name their single deepest fear, was it.

The move didn’t take them away from their daughter. It was what made being fully present for her — for thirty years, without strain — actually sustainable.

The first layerthe most expensive thing Michael owned was time

Here is the paradox of Michael’s situation, and it applies to more people than you’d think: his discipline was manufacturing his biggest future tax problem.

Two million dollars in an IRA at 62. A pension covering every expense, which means zero pressure to spend a dollar of it. No spouse, no draw, no need. So it compounds — untouched — for a decade. At reasonable growth, that IRA doesn’t stay $2 million. By the time required minimum distributions arrive at 73, it’s on a path toward $4 million, and the IRS begins forcing money out of it on a schedule, stacked on top of a pension that already fills the lower brackets. Every forced dollar comes out at rates Michael never had to accept. That’s the catastrophic version — the one that happens automatically, by default, if everyone does nothing.

The intervention is a Roth conversion program, and Michael’s window is unusually long: roughly a decade between retirement and RMDs. But here’s what makes his version harder than it looks. The pension never turns off. It sits under everything as a permanent income floor, occupying the bottom brackets every single year. The conversion math has to be mapped against that floor annually — how much room exists above the pension and below the next bracket threshold, this year, at these rates, with these rules. Get it right and Michael systematically drains the time bomb at moderate rates. Get it wrong — or start three years late — and six figures of tax savings quietly disappear.

Which is why "when should I retire?" turned out to have a financial answer after all — just not the one he expected. Every year he kept working at a Regional Director’s salary was a year the conversion window stayed sealed shut. His salary filled every bracket the conversions needed. The delay wasn’t neutral. It had a price, compounding annually.

The second layerthe problem with being self-sufficient

Michael has spent his whole life not needing anyone. It’s part of what made him good at his job. It’s also, quietly, his single largest unpriced risk.

When a married person has a health crisis, there’s a first responder built into the household — someone to notice the decline, make the calls, manage the logistics, fight with the insurance company, be there. Michael doesn’t have that. His brother’s family loves him, but they’re not down the hall, and it would be a betrayal of everything Michael stands for to plan on their availability.

So his long-term care reserve can’t just be sized for the cost of care. It has to be sized for the cost of coordination — the care manager, the earlier move to higher-touch living, the professional infrastructure that a spouse provides for free. Most LTC planning quietly assumes a partner. Plan for a solo retirement with a married person’s assumptions and the reserve will be wrong by hundreds of thousands of dollars, in the wrong direction.

And notice where that reserve most wants to live: in converted Roth dollars, tax-free at the moment of crisis. The same conversion window from the first layer. The same bracket space. Everything keeps landing in the same finite set of years.

The third layerthe people he’s doing all this for

Michael’s entire estate goes to his brother’s family. Which is where a law most people have never read reshapes everything.

Under the SECURE Act rules, when Michael’s nieces and nephews inherit what’s left of his IRA, they don’t get to stretch distributions over their lifetimes the way heirs once did. They get ten years — a decade to empty the whole account, likely landing squarely in their own peak earning years. Every inherited dollar stacks on top of their salaries at their highest lifetime rates. Run the numbers on a large inherited IRA distributed at a working professional’s top bracket and the picture is blunt: a meaningful fraction of what Michael spent forty years building would route to the IRS instead of the people he built it for.

Roth conversions fix this beautifully. Inherited Roth dollars come out tax-free. Every dollar Michael converts at his moderate retirement rates is a dollar his heirs never pay taxes on at their high rates.

But now hold the second and third layers next to each other, because this is the heart of the case. The estate strategy and the care strategy pull against each other. Converting aggressively is the best possible gift to his brother’s family — and every conversion dollar’s tax bill shrinks the liquid pool Michael may need for his own solo care event. Protect the heirs fully and he thins his own safety margin. Protect the margin fully and he hands his family a six-figure tax bill. There is no version where you solve one and ignore the other. They had to be modeled simultaneously — a single optimization across his care scenarios and their tax brackets — and rebalanced every year as his health, the markets, and the tax code move.

Handed to two different professionals — an estate attorney and a financial planner, each seeing half — this goes wrong politely and invisibly.

The fourth layerthe question the career had been answering

All of that was work I knew how to do. The harder part of Michael’s case was the reason he was still employed.

Michael kept postponing retirement, and it was never the money. The math had said yes for years. What the career gave him wasn’t income — it was an answer. When your work matters, when people report to you, when your calendar is full of things only you can decide, you never have to ask what your life is organized around. The job answers it every morning before you’re awake enough to ask.

Retirement, for Michael, meant losing the answer. So he did what capable people do with questions they can’t solve: he deferred it, one year at a time, and called it prudence.

My job at that point stopped being analysis. The numbers gave me something concrete to put on the table: the conversion window was open now, the delay had a real annual price, and the plan for his brother’s family got measurably worse each year it started late. But numbers alone don’t move a man like Michael. What moved him was naming the actual situation out loud: You’re not waiting because the plan isn’t ready. The plan has been ready for four years. You’re waiting because the job has been answering a question you’re afraid to face without it. And the longest-window, highest-value years of your financial life are being spent as the answer’s rent.

He retires this October. The first conversion happens in January — not this year, deliberately. This year is the worst conversion year of his life: ten months of the highest salary he’s ever earned, plus a vacation payout adding tens of thousands more in taxable income. There is no bracket room in a year like that. The window opens the first full calendar year the salary is gone, and the plan is built to be waiting for it.

What Michael does after — the second half of his original question — is still being written, and honestly, that’s how it should be. A financial plan can’t tell a man what his life is for. What it can do is make sure that when he finds the answer, nothing about the money gets in its way.

The first layerthe clock that started three years ago

When Tyler inherited his father’s IRA, a rule most people have never heard of started counting: as a non-spouse beneficiary, he has ten years to empty that account. Not a lifetime. Ten years. Three of them were already gone — spent, understandably, caring for his grandparents while paperwork sat in drawers.

Seven years left, and here’s the trap: the account was growing faster than he was drawing it down. Every year of market growth made the remaining distributions larger, and every larger distribution meant more taxable income compressed into fewer years.

But look at what else was true. Tyler had zero earned income. For a young man in his situation, those zero-income years are the cheapest tax environment he will ever see. Distributions drawn now start filling brackets from the very bottom. Wait until year nine and ten — possibly while newly employed as a pilot — and the same dollars come out stacked on a salary, at double the rate. The window to drain that account cheaply was open right now, during exactly the years Tyler assumed nothing needed to happen. This part was urgent and non-recoverable, and it hid inside the account that looked most like it could wait.

The second layerthree pools, one picture

Tyler’s money lived in three places, and the three places have almost nothing in common. The inherited IRA: taxable on the way out, ten-year deadline, no new money allowed in. The brokerage account: taxable only on gains, no deadline at all. The incoming $2 million: arriving with a stepped-up basis — effectively a clean slate, the most flexible money he’ll ever hold.

Treated separately — the way three different account statements invite you to treat them — each pool gets a reasonable-sounding default and the combination comes out wrong. The right structure falls out of the tax logic almost automatically once you put all three on one page: live on the IRA distributions now, while they’re cheap, letting them double as the drawdown the deadline demands. Leave the brokerage alone to compound. Deploy the inheritance deliberately into the long-horizon core, using its clean basis to build the portfolio without triggering a single unnecessary tax event. Flight school and the degree get funded out of the distribution stream that had to happen anyway.

Which meant the honest answer to Tyler’s tuition question was better than yes. It was: the money for flight school is money the IRS is already requiring you to move. Your education costs you, in real terms, almost nothing.

The third layerthe only investment decision that matters

Here’s where Tyler’s plan departs from everything a 32-year-old is normally told.

Standard advice for someone his age is aggressive growth — long runway, maximize returns, ride out volatility. And the standard advice misses what Tyler’s situation actually is. Run the arithmetic: $3 million compounding at 7 percent for 50 years is roughly $88 million. Give it 60 years and it’s north of $170 million. Tyler doesn’t need to optimize growth. Ordinary market returns, left alone for his lifetime, produce a number so large it stops meaning anything.

Which means the entire game — the whole game — is not acceleration. It’s avoiding catastrophe. The only way Tyler doesn’t end up extraordinarily wealthy is if something removes a large piece of the principal in the next decade: a concentrated bet, a leveraged mistake, a fraud, a lawsuit, a bad marriage without protections, a "can’t-miss" opportunity from a new friend. Prevent the catastrophic mistake for ten years, then get out of compounding’s way. That is a completely different investment framework than what most 32-year-olds are told — less exciting, harder to sell, and the only one that fits.

The fourth layerthe protection nobody wants to talk about

I’ll say this part plainly, because softening it does Tyler no favors.

A young man who is visibly financially secure, emotionally raw from years of consecutive loss, and standing at a social transition point — new city, new school, new circle — is a target. Not hypothetically. Predictably. Some of the danger looks like fraud. More of it looks like friendship, romance, or a business opportunity, and arrives through people who are perfectly pleasant right up until the moment they aren’t.

You do not solve that with vigilance, because vigilance fails exactly when it’s needed — when someone is lonely, or in love, or wants badly to believe. You solve it with structure: an estate plan with clean beneficiary designations, and a trust with an independent trustee — a layer of process between Tyler and his principal, so that the biggest decisions can never be made quickly, alone, or under someone else’s influence. Structure that would let Tyler say, truthfully, "I’d love to, but the money’s in a trust — there’s a process." Twelve words that end most predatory conversations before they start.

Tyler pushed back on this one, gently. It felt like distrust of a world he wanted to keep believing in. What I told him was this: the structure isn’t there because people are bad. It’s there so you never have to find out who is, the expensive way. His father spent thirty years being careful so Tyler wouldn’t have to be afraid. The trust is just that carefulness, continued.

The first layerthe quietest time bomb in this guide

The TSP is the largest of the ticking accounts in these five cases, and the trap is disguised as a blessing: David doesn't need to touch it. The FERS supplement and Jennifer's salary cover their lives. So $1.5 million sits at 52 with no draw pressure and twenty-plus years of compounding ahead of it. At a conservative 6 percent, untouched, that account is approaching $7 million pre-tax by the time required minimum distributions arrive — and then the forced distributions land on top of his pension and Social Security at brackets that would make the whole family flinch.

David has the longest Roth conversion window of anyone in this guide — two full decades. That sounds like abundance. It isn't. Here's the constraint most projections miss: Jennifer's income sets a bracket floor every single conversion year. Her $75,000 salary — plus the FERS supplement — already occupies the bottom brackets before the first conversion dollar moves. The annual ceiling on cheap conversions is far tighter than the raw account size suggests. A twenty-year window with a tight annual ceiling means the discipline has to be relentless: a measured conversion every year, sized to that year's exact bracket room, no skipped years, because a skipped year in a ceiling-constrained plan is capacity that never comes back.

The second layerthe ten years between them

An age gap between spouses is usually treated as a footnote — an input cell in the software. In the Calhoun plan, it's the organizing fact.

Jennifer is 42. Statistically — and David talks about this without flinching, because his career taught him to — she is likely to outlive him by a long stretch. Plan for the averages and Jennifer spends her seventies and eighties living inside decisions David made in his fifties. That reframes one decision above all: Social Security. The default instinct for an early retiree is to claim at 62, when the FERS supplement ends. For David, claiming early would be a permanent haircut on the one benefit that matters most in the widow scenario — because when David dies, Jennifer steps into his benefit as her survivor benefit, and she may draw it for thirty years or more.

Delaying to 70 raises that check for every one of those years. Run it across a three-decade survivorship and the arithmetic is decisive. Every year David delays claiming is not an optimization of his retirement income. It's an investment in his wife's old age — one he will likely never see pay out, made deliberately anyway. When I laid it out that way, David didn't hesitate for a second. Of course he didn't. It was the entire reason he was in the room.

The third layerthe insurance nobody will sell

Jennifer has hearing loss in one ear. Her family history includes Alzheimer's — her grandmother is in long-term care right now, so this isn't an abstraction to them; it's a bill someone in the family is paying this month.

Take those two facts to a traditional long-term care insurer and the underwriting gets ugly: declined, or rated to the point of pointlessness. The clean product answer is off the table, again — this keeps happening in complex cases, and it's worth pausing on why. Insurance is priced for the average situation. Complex lives keep failing to be average.

The workable structure has two layers. First, a hybrid policy — life insurance or annuity-based, with a long-term care rider — which underwrites more leniently than traditional LTC coverage and guarantees that something pays if care is needed, while returning value to the family if it never is. Second, behind it, a self-funded reserve built in Roth dollars — the same conversion program from the first layer, now doing double duty. Converted dollars aren't just tax arbitrage anymore; they're the tax-free care fund for a potential Alzheimer's event that could run a decade. The hybrid handles the first years of a care event. The Roth reserve handles the long tail. Neither layer alone survives a serious scenario. Together they do.

Notice — again — everything draws on the same resource. The conversion window funds the tax fix, the care reserve, and (as you're about to see) the estate structure. One window. Every strategy standing in line for it.

The fourth layerone family, three timelines, one document

Here is where most planning for families like the Calhouns quietly fails: it gets split across professionals. The financial plan goes to an advisor. The estate documents go to an attorney. Each does competent work. Nobody reconciles them.

But the Calhouns aren't one timeline — they're three. David's mortality horizon, which realism says to plan at twenty-something years. Jennifer's survival horizon, which could run past thirty years beyond his. And Lily's runway to adulthood — eleven more years as a minor, then the long stretch to real financial independence. A plan that handles these as separate conversations produces real contradictions: beneficiary designations that dump a seven-figure TSP directly onto a grieving spouse with no structure, guardianship provisions that don't match the trust, survivor income that ignores the conversion program's carefully mapped brackets.

The financial plan and the estate plan are the same document. In the Calhoun case that meant the trust structure, the survivor benefit strategy, the conversion schedule, and Lily's protections were designed in one pass, each checked against the others. If David dies at 60, the document already knows what happens — not just who gets what, but which accounts Jennifer draws first, at what tax cost, with what protections around Lily's share. Advisors who separate the two plans produce the wrong answer. Not a suboptimal answer — the wrong one, because the failure only reveals itself on the worst day of a family's life, when nothing can be amended.

The fifth layerthe retirement that looked early and wasn't

One more thing about that retirement at 52, because it's easy to misread as burnout — and it was burnout, in part. David would say so himself. The job takes what it takes.

But look at the planning consequence. If David had gritted his teeth to 55 — the conventional milestone, the one his colleagues assumed — the conversion window shrinks by three years. Three fewer years of bracket room in a plan where annual bracket room is the binding constraint. Against a TSP compounding toward seven figures times seven, those three years of conversions are worth more than the salary he gave up — and that's before you price what three more years of that job would have cost him in the currency that actually mattered: years with Lily while she's young, years with Jennifer while they're both healthy.

The decision everyone around him read as stepping back was, run through the actual numbers, the single most valuable planning move in the entire architecture. Sometimes the plan doesn't have to talk the client out of the human decision. Sometimes the human decision was right, and the plan's job is to notice.

The first layerthe structure that exists on paper

Years ago, an attorney set up a limited partnership for the Parks — asset protection, sensible for two physicians in active practice. The documents were drafted, signed, notarized, and filed. Everyone shook hands.

And then the assets were never moved into it.

I want to slow down here, because this exact failure is one of the most common things I find in complex situations, and almost no one catches it: the structure exists, and it doesn't function. The LP sat there, legally alive and completely empty, while Sofia's vested shares and Daniel's growing position accumulated in ordinary individual accounts. For two practicing physicians, that's not a technicality. Every day those assets sit outside the partnership is a day they're fully exposed to a malpractice judgment above policy limits — the precise scenario the LP was built for. The Parks had paid for a fortress and were living outside its walls.

Nobody was negligent, exactly. The attorney built the structure; funding it wasn't his job. The custodians held the accounts; retitling them wasn't theirs. This is what happens in the gaps between professionals — everyone competent, no one responsible for the whole. Fixing it was neither expensive nor difficult. It just required someone to notice.

The second layerthe stock that keeps arriving

Now the equity. Sofia holds about $1.2 million in her current employer's stock, roughly $200,000 of it already vested. Daniel holds $275,000 in his company's stock — with $300,000 in new RSU grants landing every year. That last number is the one that matters. This isn't a static concentration to unwind once. It's a conveyor belt. Every vesting date, more employer stock drops into their individual accounts, and without a standing rule, it stays there — because selling always feels like a decision and holding never does.

Here's the part that makes the Parks' version harder than the textbook version: Sofia has already lived through a concentration event. At her previous employer — a digital health startup — she accumulated a substantial RSU position when the company went public. And because of her seniority there, she couldn't simply sell. She was classified as an insider: any sale had to be planned and notified six months in advance, executable only inside designated trading windows. She watched the position ride the IPO euphoria and then give a painful share of it back — with her hands, for long stretches, procedurally tied. She carries that experience in her body, the way people carry the lessons that changed what they believe about safety.

You'd think the scar would make diversification easy. It does the opposite, in a strange way. The lesson trauma teaches is rarely clean — and Daniel, watching his own employer's stock sit stable and familiar year after year, doesn't feel like he's holding risk. He feels like he's holding his company. When the time comes that his stock wobbles, the memory of Sofia's experience is as likely to trigger paralysis as action. That is exactly why the diversification program cannot rely on judgment. It has to be systematic and rule-based — sell on a schedule, on vesting dates, at any price, no meetings, no exceptions — precisely because emotion will override judgment at the wrong moment. The rule exists so that no one has to be brave later.

The third layerthe cliff they can see coming

This is the layer that was actually generating the question, and it's the one I take most seriously in their whole picture.

Sofia and Daniel both believe — not anxiously, but with a reasoned professional basis, from inside the industry — that $600,000 represents their lifetime peak income. Not because they'll underperform. Because artificial intelligence is restructuring their entire field, and the economics of what they each do may not survive the decade intact. They're not certain. Nobody is. But they put the odds high enough that planning around it would be malpractice of a different kind.

Take that seriously for a moment, because most financial plans structurally cannot. The standard model takes current income and extends it rightward with a growth rate. For the Parks, that model is fragile by design — an architecture built on a floor they have specific reason to believe may drop. So we inverted it: the plan models a significant income reduction in seven to ten years as the base case, not the stress test. Every major decision gets made against that assumption. Savings rate: set as if the peak ends. The LP funding, the diversification program, the college accounts: sequenced front-loaded, while the income exists. If the cliff never comes, the Parks are simply wealthy earlier. If it comes, it finds them ready. That asymmetry — nothing lost if wrong, everything protected if right — is what resilience actually looks like on paper.

The fourth layereighteen years, minus what they lived

Two children, projected college years of 2040 through 2042 and beyond, projected costs — run honestly — of $400,000 to $600,000 per child.

For most families I'd frame college funding as one priority among several. For the Parks it isn't negotiable, and the reason isn't in a spreadsheet: they lived the $800,000 student loan experience. They know exactly what it costs — not just in dollars but in years of deferred life — to start a career under that weight. They will move mountains before their children carry it.

The mechanics follow from the cliff. The right time to fund two 529 plans aggressively is now — at peak income, with the three-year-old holding a 15-year compounding runway and the baby nearly 18. Front-loading turns their strongest earning years directly into their children's freedom, and every dollar in by 2028 matters more than three dollars scrambled for in 2038 if the income has stepped down. But it has to be sequenced against everything else drawing on the same peak years — the LP transfer, the systematic sales, the taxable savings that fund the cliff scenario itself. One income stream, four programs drinking from it, a window of uncertain length. The order of operations is the plan.

The fifth layerthe documents that don't exist

If something happens to Sofia and Daniel — both of them, one highway, one flight — here is what their picture looked like when we met: no guardianship designation anyone had formalized, no trust, and several million dollars in assets that would land, through probate, in the general direction of two children who will be minors for the next 15 to 17 years.

For parents of young children, a trust with a proper trustee structure isn't an estate-planning nicety. It's the foundation everything else sits on — who raises the kids, who manages the money, on what terms, with what oversight, until they're not just legal adults but actual adults. The Parks are two people who plan for catastrophe professionally; they'd simply never pointed the discipline at themselves. It took one conversation and one uncomfortable question — who picks them up from daycare on the day it happens? — to move it from someday to scheduled.

The sixth layerthe honest one

The plan also models something the Parks didn't ask me to model: one of them stepping back within three years. Not the AI cliff — burnout, the ordinary human kind. Two physicians, two careers at full intensity, a three-year-old and an infant. The honest version of the plan doesn't assume peak performance indefinitely, because people aren't machines and pretending otherwise just relocates the surprise. If either of them steps back, every income assumption moves. So it's in the model, explicitly, with numbers — not as a failure scenario. As a choice the plan is built to survive. There's a real freedom in that, and I watched it land: knowing the plan doesn't require heroics is sometimes what makes the heroics sustainable.